So Now Professional Network of Women Networking for Women in Toledo, Findlay, Lima Sat, 22 Dec 2018 15:35:08 +0000 en-US hourly 1 So Now Professional Network of Women 32 32 Are you selling your dreams short? Mon, 24 Apr 2017 18:44:12 +0000 “To make a difference, I truly believe you have to be willing to be uncomfortable, to be willing to share your message with people, and to really put yourself out there.” – The Incubated Author by Angela E. Lauria

After I read Lauria’s quote, my mind immediately began to reflect on the times in my life that I have sold my dreams short. Each time two of the same things showed up that eventually kept me from pursing my dreams — the word “uncomfortable” and the phrase “put yourself out there.”When I have stepped away from status quo in order to try something new in the past, I would sometimes find myself in a very uncomfortable space.  And because I didn’t like feeling uncomfortable, I would then go running back to status quo.  And when I stayed in that space too long, I would become complacent and uninspired.

Out of necessity, I finally developed a fool-proof process I can now use to help move me through fear and back onto a path of new ideas, daring moves and endless possibilities, I call it my….It’s NEVER too Late to Follow my DREAMS plan.

1. List your top two dreams.
2. Visualize how you will feel if you don’t achieve your dreams.
3. Visualize how you will feel when you do achieve your dreams.
4. Choose ONE dream to act on NOW.
5. Break down your chosen dream into six parts.
6. Choose one of the six parts to focus on first.
7. Break that part down into 6 smaller parts.
8. Choose one of the smaller parts as your first step and GeT iN MoTiOn!

Are you selling your dreams short?  If so, walk through these eight steps with a new perspective and get re-inspired about your dreams. And then GeT iN MoTiOn!

How Language Makes You Stuck Wed, 08 Feb 2017 13:56:33 +0000 This past weekend I was having a BIG come apart and feeling extremely sorry for myself. All I could think about was what I wasn’t able to achieve in my life and business because of my circumstances. I’m sure you have never done that?? But just in case you have, I spent some time reflecting on my current mindset so I could figure out specifically what was going on.  Finally, I realized my negative outlook was the result of my language and self-talk. I was using seemingly innocent words to sabotage myself.

  1. The FIRST thing I noticed was that I was using, “I am”.  For example…“I am helpless.” or “I am angry.” Using  “I am” is like placing an equal sign between you and the emotion – you equal whatever emotion you are experiencing. In my case, I equaled helpless and anger.  But in reality I wasn’t anger or helpless.  I decided to make a major mind shift and now when I am feeling helpless or feeling any emotion – I instead replace it with, “I am choosing to hold onto anger instead of I am angry”.  That left me with the choice to continue or to stop holding onto whatever emotion I was experiencing.  This reframe allowed me to let go of an emotion at will, instead of claiming it as a constant state of mind.
  1. The SECOND thing I was using were “why” questions.  For example, “Why did this happen to me?” and “Why can’t I be stronger?” Other questions I have heard past clients ask are, “Why can’t I lose weight?”, “Why can’t I motivate myself?” and  “Why can’t I make more money?” All of these statements are problem focused, without an answer or solution – keeping us stuck in the overriding question of  “why”.  For example, the statement, “Why can’t I lose weight.” – makes the mind then think – hummm I can’t lose weight because…and we then answer our own question through our current mindset – and if we aren’t in a great place we may respond with….because I can’t achieve anything in life – because I am a loser – and the negative answers will keep coming up and not help us lose weight because the self-talk is not solution based. Try using the word HOW instead.    Ask yourself…”HOW can I lose weight?” “HOW can I be stronger?” “HOW can I not focus on my circumstances?”  HOW, focuses on solutions, things you can do about the statement. Solutions that will put you into motion.

The moral of the story – reframe your self-talk and you will be able to break free of what’s holding you back and move into an action based, positive mindset.  A clearer vision and focus will give you no choice but to have your best year ever in 2017! The Year of the SKY…

What’s Your One Word? Thu, 12 Jan 2017 13:58:56 +0000 It was Christmas Eve, the sun had set and my grandchildren were opening gifts. Katie, my stepdaughter, whispered to me that Hunter, her first grader, had been questioning the validity of Santa Claus.  I was sad to hear the news. A short time later my son-in-law, Steve, decided to check out if the lake in front of our house was completely frozen. He asked Hunter to tag along, which, of course, he enthusiastically agreed.

What they didn’t know was that earlier in the day my son, Theodore who was visiting from California, had been fooling around on the dock and had decided to walk on the lake and test out if it was frozen.  It had snowed part of the day so Theodore’s little experiment had left fresh footprints in the snow on the surface of the lake.
When Steve and Hunter arrived at the end of the dock Hunter saw the footprints and screamed, “Santa was here – look at the footprints and the sled marks! It’s unbelievable, Santa was here.”

Steve not knowing quite what to say, said nothing, thank goodness. He played along with Hunter’s excitement and they both came running back into the house looking for a cell phone so they could take photos of Santa’s tracks and show them to us. Once they retrieved copies of the photos from the printer Hunter began running and jumping around showing everyone Santa’s footprints, while at the same time pointing his finger toward the huge window that overlooks the lake. Miraculously, at that very moment an airplane with flashing lights was flying over the lake preparing to land at Toledo Express.

Hunter became completely overwhelmed with joy, “It’s Santa it’s Santa – look, he’s headed this way. It’s unbelievable – I need to go home and put out cookies and milk. Come on mom we need to leave now! This is unbelievable.”

The gift from this story? Hunter will believe in Santa one more year. How wonderful! The moral of the story?  Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise about the validity of your beliefs or your dreams.

Because of Hunter’s rediscovery of the magic of Santa Claus and how “unbelievable” it was for him, I have chosen UNBELIEVABLE as my One Word for 2017!

Do Your Goals have Specificity? Thu, 24 Nov 2016 18:09:50 +0000 Do Your Goals have Specificity?

December is the season for reflection, remembrance and rejuvenation…For gratitude, giving, grace and goals.

Recently at a So Now Networking event we were asked, “What is the one thing you would do or goal you would set for 2017, if you knew you couldn’t fail?”

Many shared their exciting goals: Improved networking, increased membership, start a business, consistent exercise, financial stability, more focus, better vision, fulfill spiritual needs, abundant success, life happiness……and the list went on.

What I noticed though was that my goal, like everyone else, lacked one very important ingredient: SPECIFICITY.

In other words, specifically how increased membership, more focus, life happiness or abundant success could be achieved. The specific plan for…..
>What we were willing to do and when.
>What our doable steps were.
>And how to break those steps down into what needed to be done today, tomorrow, next week, next month.

So I went back to the drawing board and faced my big goal head on. First, I identified what the most important 6 parts of my goal were. Second, I identified 5 overall steps what I thought each of the 6 parts would require. Third and finally, I set a deadline to each of those 6 steps.

Do your goals have specificity? Apply these 3 steps to your goals and your 2017 will be wildly successful.

1 Peter 4:10
“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.”

Be the Best Version of Ourselves Mon, 24 Oct 2016 18:30:53 +0000 “Our essential purpose is to become the-best-version-of-ourselves….Once we discover it and place this purpose at the center of our lives, everything begins to make sense. Until we discover our essential purpose, nothing makes sense, and we wander around aimlessly, slowly being numbed into lives of quiet desperation.” – The Rhythm of Life by Matthew Kelly

WOW…such powerful advice. I’m in the process of reading Kelly’s book and I can’t seem to put it down. Kelly goes on to say that there are “FOUR simple steps that will empower you to make a difference in other people’s lives and lead you along the path of greatness.

  1. STEP ONE When you wake up tomorrow morning, remind yourself of your goal, your point B, your essential purpose—to become the-best-version-of-yourself.
  2. STEP TWO The next step is to ask yourself, “Whose day can I make today?”
  3. STEP THREE Now ask yourself, “How can I make that person’s day?”
  4. STEP FOUR When you have made these first three steps, shower and have breakfast, but then, just before racing into the day, take a few minutes to plan, reflect, and pray. Find a quiet place, and in that silence visualize how you would like your day to unfold. Make plans to fulfill your legitimate needs physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Take a moment to become aware of, and to appreciate, all you have and all you are, and then you will be ready for the day.”

I can’t wait to incorporate all FOUR steps into my daily life.

Many Blessings, Jenn

Inspiration Every Month of the Year! Wed, 24 Aug 2016 18:59:00 +0000 The 3 J’s to a JOYFUL January…..

  1. Jazz-Upyour career by creating a heart-felt, action specific marketing plan and then back it up with your unstoppable attitude.
  2. Jubilantlycelebrate and appreciate how far you have come EVERY day and go after your 2015 goals with confidence and passion.
  3. Journal your journey. Notice how you feel every step of the way.  Are there any limiting beliefs standing in your way? If so…..Document, then Demolish them!

The 3 F’s to a FAMOUS February…..

  1. Fine-Tune all of your systems and processes.  Be ready for the unexpected.
  2. Fire-UPyour positive spirit and look at each detour as an opportunity.
  3. Faithfully evaluate your life-purpose every quarter. Does it support your values and beliefs?

The 3 M’s to a MAGICAL March…..

  1. iMaginehow completing a series of tasks toward a goal will impact your life.
  2. Make the Moveto stop putting out fires and instead prioritize your time.
  3. Motivateothers by using words of wisdom that encourage success.

The 3 A’s to an ABUNDANT April…..

  1. Awaken your senses, appreciate your life and celebrate your successes!
  2. Adhere to your most important values – without exception!
  3. Analyzeyour communication style – use visionary words of wisdom that encourage success.

The 3 M’s to a MAGNIFICENT May…..

  1. Bemesmerized by your greatness!
  2. Map-outevery detail of your best life – and go LIVE it!
  3. Mirroryour true needs and beliefs in your communication.

The 3 J’s to a JAZZY June…..

  1. Joyfully share your gifts!
  2. Jump out of bed each morning and gratefully embrace your day!
  3. Jam your mind with positive thoughts!

The 3 J’s to a JUBILANT July…..

  1. Jumpstart your July by setting anAUDACIOUSGoal. Identify two steps that you will accomplish THIS MONTH.       
  2. Jumble up your thinking and look at your dream from a different perspective and then make aBOLDmove.
  3. Jockey your schedule around until you are only blocking time to do the things that are most important to you and your dream.

The 3 A’s to an AUDACIOUS August…..

  1. Act as if you are already where you want to be. That means thinking like, talking like, dressing like, and feeling like the person you will become after you have achieved your goals.
  2. Annihilate your negative thinking – replace it with a strong visualization of what you would rather believe.
  3. Adorn your life with the people that you love to be with.

The 3 S’s to a STUPENDOUS September…..

  1. Successesfrom January through August need to be appreciated and celebrated.
  2. Stop andEvaluate and update the goals you set at the beginning of the year.
  3. Sharewhy you do what you do!  Review all the avenues you use to share why and what we do.  Is your message and brand consistent and uniquely inspiring?

The 3 O’s to an OUTSTANDING October…..

  1. Organize what is most important to youby identifying your Top 10 Values. Design goals around your values and align your life and business according to them.
  2. Step OUT of your shoes and into the shoes of your future.Are you focusing on the things that will take you to where you truly want to be in life?
  3. Optimize your Appreciation….watch the sun rise…smell a flower…experience each stroke inside your favorite painting.

The 3 N’s to a NOTABLE November…..

  1. Nourishyour mind with inspirational music and people.
  2. Notifyyour fears that you are breaking-through your comfort zone and bursting into your greatness!
  3. Nuzzle-upin a wool blanket, curl up in your favorite chair and visualize your brightest dream — from inception through fruition.

The 3 D’s to a DAZZLING December…..

  1. Delight in the beauty behind the reason for the season.
  2. Devote time to contemplate whether you are honoring and featuring your special gifts in your business and life.
  3. Dream BIG and map out an action plan for the New Year and share it with two people.